I have a fundamental issue with the word "mansplaining", and it's probably not what you think.

This journal appears to have become a place for me to put things I want to reference later, so I'm posting here.

I have, from time to time in my life, been an asshole. I've been called on it, and while it may not have been fun in the moment, I appreciate those who did.

I have, from time to time, been sexist. Same thing - call me on it, it hurts, I generally appreciate it later.

Likewise with condescending, or pandering, or any number of other things. Realistically, I'm not built for self reflection in the moment the way many others are, so if you notice I'm being one of these (or a million other) things, please tell me so I know to stop. I'll be upset for a while. It's OK. Discomfort is how growth happens.

Similarly, people around me have been these and many other things. I try to be good about pointing it out but I recognize that I'm not great at it.

Whatever. The point is I'm fully aware that I can be a condescending sexist asshole. And you can call me on it. In fact, please do.

Do not, however, tell me that I'm being a condescending sexist asshole in a way that ONLY people of my gender are capable of. I'm not. There's no such thing. Women are just as capable of being condescending sexist assholes as men are. So are nonbinary people. I've seen it. So have you.

In fact, we see it every time someone uses the word "mansplaining". Because when you accuse someone of doing something that ONLY their gender is capable of (positive or negative), you are being a condescending sexist asshole.

So call me on being a condescending sexist asshole if you see me being one. But if you do it with the word "mansplain", don't be surprised if you're pointed to this journal entry. And if you do it a second time, don't be surprised if you're unfriended. I don't need condescending sexist assholes on my friends list any more than you do.

Been a while. Again.

There've been a few update-worthy things in my life since the last time I posted, but frankly, Facebook made it way too easy to post there, and that's what I've been doing. But I've missed the archival function of LJ, and nentikobe just pointed out that there's an iPhone app (duh, of course there is), so I'm going to try to do some catching up. But not right now; I'm tiiiiiiiiired. G'night!


Counting down

This is better if read out loud and slightly slurred.

I have to 1der about the fatty 2mor near my 3rd eye on my 4head.  5 my druthers, it won't make me feel 6.  That might be the opposite of 7.  Maybe it's just something I 8.  I do hope it's be9, though.  At least it's not 10der.

Strange dream last night.

I rarely remember them, so I thought I'd give the highlights.

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The whole thing was very strange.  And when I woke up, I realized that I had forgotten to go to the Buena High School Drama department production of "Princess Bride" that I truly intended to attend last night.  It runs through Saturday, but I'm not available any other night.  Dang...

Radio silence

Sorry for disappearing on you. I've been posting most of my mini-updates over on my Facebook page (or the business' Facebook page). And occasionally on Twitter.

So what's been going on with me since August? Well, I've been spending most of my time and energy in trying to get the business off the ground. Done a couple of events to help with that, and I've got another couple lined up. There are two other big announcements, one of which we're not quite ready to go public with - soon though, so stay tuned. The OTHER is that we're moving. It looks like we'll be moving in with Mom for a while, with the total timeline unclear. But we've gotta be out of our current house ASAP. Which of course means paring down what we own to as small a space as possible, because it doesn't make much sense to save money by moving only to rent a storage unit that's a couple hundred dollars a month. (We'll probably still need storage, but are hoping to minimize the damage by getting rid of stuff)

Anyway, that's me. What's been going on with you?


Me: Hey Blockbuster, now that Battlestar Galactica has a boxed set available with the entire series on Blu-Ray, when will you be adding that to your options so I can see the whole series in hi-def? I see you have season 4.5 available, but I want the rest too.

Blockbuster customer service person #1: I understand you want to add Battlestar Galactica season 4.5 to your queue. Here's a step by step explanation of how you do that...

Me: No, I've got over 700 items in my queue, I know how it's done. I want the option of adding BSG seasons in a format that you don't currently have available. How do I go about this?

Blockbuster customer service person #2: As a personal follow up, I will be sure to forward a report to our online movie buyers to have copies of "Battlestar Galactica [2004]: Season 4.0" in BluRay format and be added in our movie library as quickly as possible.

Me: Thanks! Will you please also request your movie buyers pick up BSG seasons 1, 2, and 3, as well as "BSG: Razor" in Blu-Ray? They may only be available in the big boxed set I mentioned earlier, in case that helps.

Blockbuster customer service person #3: I understand that you are requesting for the movie series "Battlestar Galactica [2004] Disc 1, 2, and 3" and "Battlestar Galactica: Razor" in Blu-Ray. Rest assured that I will be submitting your request to our product team. If the movies are "Available" in Blu-Ray we will purchase it and post in our movie library.

Me: As did everyone before you, you misunderstand what I want. YES, I want all discs of Season 4 in Blu-Ray. I ALSO want all discs of season 1, all discs of season 2, and all discs of season 3 in Blu-Ray. Thank you.

That catches us up to this morning. We'll see what their next e-mail says...

Anybody out there using Windows 7?

I've got a computer that's about ready for a reformat and OS reinstall, and I was wondering what your opinions might be of Win7.  The system is used pretty much solely for these purposes:

  • Media playing (MP3s via iTunes, divx files, occasional quicktime movies)
  • Web browsing (nothing fancy, mostly imdb and e-mail)
  • Occasional DVD burning (.ISO files provided by a different computer that does all the processing beforehand)
  • Networked file transfers with a Vista system (can be gotten around with SD cards or AOL IM, but both of those options are annoying)

I don't need much power for the traditional things (gaming, etc), just the basics.  Can Windows 7 do those things pretty effectively?